Allan and Barbara Pease produced a book “Why women can’t read maps …… and won’t stop talking” to help readers to learn more about women so that interaction and relationships with women can be more fulfilling, enjoyable and satisfying. Here are of the some points I have taken from the book for us to learn.

(1)       A man won’t admit mistakes because he thinks she won’t love him. But the reality is, a woman will love a man more if he admits his mistake.

(2)       When you are dealing with an upset woman, do not offer any solutions or invalidate her feelings – just show her that you are listening.

(3)       Don’t become angry when a woman gives you advice. For her, offering advice builds trust in a relationship and is not seen as a sign of weakness.

(4)       Talking about her problems is how a woman gets relief from stress. What she wants from you is to listen, not to offer solutions.

(5)       Tell her about your problems. For a woman, sharing problems is a sign of trust and friendship.

(6)       A woman loves to receive a card from a man. Buy an empty card and get another woman to teach you how to write a great message.

(7)       How much a man earns is not the most important thing to a woman. When a woman leaves a man, it is not because she is unhappy with what he can provide, but because she is emotionally unfulfilled.

(8)       Allow women to choose your clothing. Men are often colour blind to blue, red, or green and their brains have limited ability to match patterns and designs.

(9)       Do not criticise a woman for telling you to turn right when she really meant left. Women have difficulty telling their left from their right hand because most women use both sides of their brain for this task.

(10)     For women, speech has a clear purpose: to build relationships and make friends – not to solve problems.

(11)     When a woman talks at the end of the day, she doesn’t want interruptions with solutions to her problems.You are expected not to respond, just to listen.

(12)     To get on better with women, talk more. If a man is with a group of women, his lack of talks will make women think that he is distant, sulky or doesn’t want to join in.

(13)     Talking about day-to-day problems is how modern women cope with stress. They see it as bonding and being supportive.

(14)     A woman is four to six times more likely to touch another person in a social conversation than a man. Don’t misread a friendly touch.

(15)     A woman talks to show participation and build relationships. If a woman is talking to you a lot, she likes you. If she’s not talking to you, you’re in trouble.

(16)     A woman’s talk is unstructured and several subjects can be discussed at any one time with no conclusions being reach. For women, talking is just like shopping.

(17)     Never insist a woman to park her car if she doesn’t want to. Estimating the distance between the car bumper and the garage wall while moving is a spatial skill most women are not strong in.

(18)     If a woman asks you to choose between a pair of blue or gold shoes, don’t do it. If you choose, you’ll always be wrong. Ask her which one she has chosen and give her confirmation why this is an excellent choice.

(19)     A woman reads the meaning of what is being said through voice intonation and the speaker’s body language. This is exactly what you need to do to capture and keep her attention.

(20)     Women love men who can dance.

(21)     Most women will prefer to receive emotion-limited gifts like flowers and cards than practical gifts like toaster or car-jack.

Source : “Why women can’t read maps…. And won’t stop talking” by Allan & Barbara Pease. Published by Pease Training International Pty. Ltd, Australia.